Parents Are Special Too

Today I attended an awards ceremony for my kids. They received A,  A/B honor roll certificates, and one received the Christian Character Award.  I am very proud of them. All of their hard work has really paid off. However as they both walked up to the stage to be rewarded for their accomplishments I had a selfish moment. It’s not one that I am proud of but to be honest I think we all have them as a parent. While I am happy for them; I began to look around at all the parents sitting in the church sanctuary and thought where was our recognition.

I have no doubt that the road to this moment was filled with lots of compromises such as time, lack of sleep, pep talks and many frustrated nights just doing homework.  I am sure there were many tedious trips to Walmart to pick up just the right supplies for school projects and assignments..

I know some of your are probably thinking well that’s our job as a parent. “It comes with the territory”. You are also probably thinking that they are our recognition. You my friends are absolutely correct. However just because we are parents doesn’t mean that we do not like to feel appreciated. It does not mean that because it is our job that we would not like to receive a pat on the back or a good job mom, dad from time to time. Wouldn’t it be great to be rewarded for our time, patience, overfilled schedules and committed efforts that are put forth into helping them do their  best.

My fellow readers we are living in a world where so many teachers and kids alike have little to no support from parents.I am not saying that this is intentional because sometimes it cant be helped; as some are put into situations beyond their control. Nevertheless when you get the type of parents listed below

  • parents who are committed to the success of their children
  • parents who make sure that their children are fully prepared for the school day
  • parents who work with the school to make sure that their kids are contributing to a safe bully free environment
  • parents who teach their kids self respect, respect for their peers and respect for authority
  • parents who make sure that their kids are adhering to the rules

They are the parents that should be recognized for their good work. So to all my fellow readers out there that are holding it down as a parent and you’re on the job 24/7. I commend you on your good work!  Today is Parent Appreciation Day! on Chronicles of a Gen X Mom from me to you. I give you a

Parent Recognition Award

A-For effort

A- For Time

          A-For Persistence

        A-For Motivation

Enjoy your accomplishments!

Until next time…Live, Love, Laugh

Lady Allen


Big Mike

From the day my son was born his bright smile and vibrant personality has captivated the attention of his family, teachers and peers alike. So when an upperclassman at his K-12 school took him under his wing and gave him the name Big Mike I was not surprised. They would stop him in the halls on the way to class and high five him. It made him feel special. For the next 3 years my son was Big Mike. He loved it and thrived on his new found popularity.

That was until the Spring of 2016 when we made a family decision that would rock his world. We decided to change schools and were all in agreement to it. It was considered one of the best christian private schools in the city. Our boys were excited about the sports and new opportunities that would be available to them. Little did we know about the effect that it would have on him or how it would impact him socially.

So after a fun filled summer with his friends and lots of goodbyes to his teachers, we prepared for a new year at a new school. On the first day of school my son walks into his classroom expecting to make lots of friends and carry on his legacy as Big Mike. He was maybe even a little cocky and expected things to just fall into place. However this was not the case his bright smile and vibrant personality did not cut it. This was a tough crowd. Needless to say his reputation nor title transferred with him. Instead he was given another title The New Kid. The new kid that had no friends and was considered a little weird.

Have you ever heard of the show From the Bottom Up. This is where he had to start, he had to earn his title. There were lots of Big Mike’s (popular kids) there. At first he questioned himself and began to wonder what was wrong with him. My heart ached for him. I even began to question myself, did I make the right decision?  As I watched discouragement set in and the enemy try to depress my son, I began to pray. Oh the power of pray is all I can say. Prayer changes things and it’s working things are getting better. He still has good days and not so good days but I know God has his back. He’s the best friend that anyone can have.

“I told him instead of counting this as a loss, look at it as a new opportunity to reinvent yourself. You can be anything you want to be. Instead of walking in an image that was created for you create your own image and style. Yeah some will like it and some won’t. Who cares as long as you’re happy with who you are when you look in the mirror.”

In a perfect world it would be nice if other people could see us the way we see ourselves, through rose colored glasses. If that was the case then we would always be Superman, Wonder Woman, Iron Man or even Big Mike. We would never grow because we would always want to stay in our comfort zone. Unfortunately no matter how great we are or think we are the world shows no mercy. People draw their own conclusions and create their own images of who we are to them. These are the lessons I try to teach my sons. You are not who people say you are. Neither do you have to live up to their image of you, good or bad. Always allow room for growth and change. Never give anyone that much power. The titles we hold on earth are just temporary and are subject to change at any moment. When you allow people to validate who you are by giving you a title you also give them the power to strip it away at whim.

“So to my son Michael get out of your comfort zone, remove the rose colored glasses and take your power back. You may never be Big Mike again but you are still special. Draw close to God, find your true purpose in him and you will find your identity”

I am reminded that when God gave Jacob a purpose he changed his name.

“He said to him you will no longer be called Jacob but Israel.”

We can rejoice in knowing that when God changes your name no one can take it away.

God said to him, “Your name is Jacob, but you will no longer be called Jacob; your name will be Israel.” So he named him Israel. Genesis 35:10 NIV

Until next time…Live, Love, Laugh

Lady Allen

The Proverbs 31 Woman in Fast Mode

Proverbs 31:10, King James Version (KJV)
10” Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies”.

Being a mom the second time around has it advantages and disadvantages. Second time moms have the advantages of being a more seasoned parent, that voice of reason in a chaotic world. Yet have the disadvantages of being a modern day mom. The Modern Day Mom Era is how I like to refer to it. The Proverbs 31 Woman in fast mode.The know all, be all and do all mentality. I remember reading that passage when I first became a christian and thinking no woman can be all of those things. Unless she has Super Powers.Thank God for wisdom. We as moms are pulled into so many directions on a daily basis that it can be overwhelming. The pressure to be the head of the PTA or make the best costume, bake the best bake sale items or the best science project for the science fair. As if that is not enough, and to help bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan. The cares of this world can extinguish the light that God has put inside of us.. Therefore blinding us to our true purpose in life. I am not saying that these things are not important but let’s not allow them to choke the life out of us.

We are so much more than that. We are unique individuals with our own hopes and dreams, that rare precious jewel, that good thing a man acquires when he finds us. So slow down and smell the roses, Enjoy that cup of tea as you sit by the fire. Stop neglecting yourselves, treat yourselves you deserve it.

Women are charged with such a great responsibility in life. We are prayer warriors, homemakers, wives and employees. We set the spiritual balance for the household and are what helps make a house a home.

Most of all we are Women of God, created for his purpose to worship him. So let us not forget to make time for him in all our planning. Pencil God in your Mom Journal, he should be your first appointment in the morning.

Women of God, Wives, and Mothers I leave you with this.  Let us walk in the Grace, Wisdom, Power and Femininity that is within us. For these are our Super Powers.

Until next time… Live, Love, Laugh!

Lady Allen